HOW TO ANSWER THE SOCIALIZATION QUESTION ONCE AND FOR ALL

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HOW TO ANSWER THE SOCIALIZATION QUESTION ONCE AND FOR ALL

By Marsha Ransomb

I am beginning to tire of the many articles, essays and responses
I keep running across on what has become to be known as
the "socialization question." Homeschooling families, please listen
carefully: What people refer to as socialization is a non-issue! It
has become a buzzword among the Official Homeschool Nay Sayers
Society. When someone asks you the question ("What about
SOCIALIZATION?"), I suggest you begin by asking them, "What do you
mean by socialization?" They will more then likely proceed with some
variation on the falling theme: "You know, having your kids spend
time with other kids their own age. Hanging out with friends, stuff
like that." At that point do not, under any circumstances respond
with, "Oh my little Susie gets plenty of socialization! She's in the
4-H and Awanas, and Sunday School and Homeschool Band and she
volunteers at the nursing home etc., etc., etc. In fact she has so many
opportunities for socialization that I hardly have time to teach her
some days. Ya Da Ya Da Ya Da." Why not? Because this is not what
socialization is!

Here is a more appropriate response: "Oh, I think the word you
are looking for is socializing. Socialization is actually defined as
the process by which the norms and standards of our society are
passed from one generation to the next. I've never really thought
that a complete stranger's 6 year old child would be a good source of
information on the correct standards of behavior in our family or in
society as a whole. As for socializing, I remember from my school days
that it was something you weren't supposed to be doing during class!"

We do not have to defend homeschooling based on false
assumptions, false accusations, and false information. Please stop
telling others about all the opportunities your kids have
. Next time, don't be afraid to say so! for "socialization" and start gently exposing them to the real issue
here...a lot of what kids learn from other kids in social situations
is simply living according to "The Law Of The Jungle." In our family,
we have a higher set of laws to follow and I bet your family does
too